Explorations on Feminist Leadership 2022-23 | S1: Episode 2

Episode 2: Love and Care in Relationships

Love & care are the most integral and indispensable parts across all forms of life. Love is a simple yet complex emotion, felt, studied, dissected and theorised by many minds across different generations. While love and its definition is ever-evolving, Noor, Pallack and Gaytri attempt to understand these nuances through their personal and unique lived experiences. They hope to create a candid dialogue around what it means to each of them from where they stand in different junctures of life, through intimate lenses and further contextualised by their feminist journey.

About the hosts

Pallack is a curious thinker and a tired extrovert. She works as a Mental Health Professional and spends most of her time deciphering the world that resides both outside and inside her. Passionate to learn, she wishes to educate and sensitise herself to the workings of the systems she finds herself embedded in. An amateur visual artist, she loves photographing and documenting her days through some form of art and music.

Noor is a multidisciplinary artist. She graduated as an Animation film designer from MIT institute of design, and is currently pursuing a PG Diploma in Expressive Arts Therapy from St. Xavier’s College. They created “”Ocean””, a judgement-free art community space, that fosters connection and explores themes of belonging, togetherness and freedom. They are also trained as a Menstrual Health educator, and facilitate menstrual awareness in marginalised communities.

Gaytri is currently a Communications Associate at Swasti, The Health Catalyst. She loves to bake, watch movies, crochet and hang out with her cats while drinking coffee. She is extremely passionate about social justice, rights, and social norms, especially from a gendered perspective. Occasionally, she loves to theorise about love and other emotions and how they are affected by wider social discourses and factors.

Transcript

Gaytri

Hello and welcome to “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #One FutureFellows2022”,  a podcast by the 2022 cohort of the One Future Fellows, where we discussed, examine, and learn about all things feminist leadership. I’m Gaytri and my pronouns are she/they.

 

Noor

I’m Noor, and my pronouns are she/they.

 

Pallack

I am Pallack and my pronouns are she/her.

 

Gaytri

And today we will be talking about love and care in relationships. We will be exploring multiple themes like what love means to us, how we form these perceptions, the role of media and the formation of these perceptions, various ways we express love in different cultures, and how we can create love and harmony in consensual relationships.

 

Pallack

The rationale behind choosing this is that we feel emotions, bind and unite all human experiences. Love and care are integral and indispensable parts across all forms of life. And so while love can be experienced or understood as a complex emotion dissected and theorized by many minds across different generations, our attempt together is to understand what it means from our lived experiences, but also contextualized by our feminist journey. With its due twists and turns, we present you today, love and care in relationships. So maybe we start with understanding what it means to each of us. What do you think love means to each of you?

 

Noor

For me, love is like a home. It is held and contained like four walls of safety and protection. And what home means to me is a space to be vulnerable and accepted and nurtured from deep within.

 

Gaytri

What love means to me is, I guess it is about the gestures and the emotions that we feel and words, I guess. Maybe all that is a love language thing, but that’s how I define it. It feels like the end goal of things, the bedrock, the foundation of all my relationships, either romantic or platonic, and I feel like it’s one of the most important, most talked about, yet unexplored concepts out there. My perception of love was mainly romantic in the beginning, like as a child I used to think of love only in a romantic sense, but as I have explored it a little bit more, I’ve realized the importance of platonic love and obviously, like media has played a big role in my perception of love. So maybe we can discuss more on that later, but what are your thoughts on love Pallack?

 

Pallack

So, love for me has meant safety. I think for the longest time, safety and love, these two feelings would have no real distinction in its meaning. Feeling unwavered, feeling unapologetic, feeling unadulterated – all of this has felt very synonymous with love and close to what Noor defines or understands as home so homely. However, with the ever evolving experience of all emotions as we grow old, I think love has also brought me so much joy that it brings me this really, really unique feeling of invincibility. I think love makes me feel invincible, so it could be immunity from my fears, my insecurities, from the everyday intrusive thoughts. And in many ways, if safety is embedded in the heart of love, I think invincibility becomes somewhat of an antidote to all psychological warfare. I feel love can fully hold you and it can consume you. And maybe, just maybe, that’s why it’s so powerful.

 

Gaytri

I think that’s beautiful.

 

Pallack

Yeah, thank you.

 

Gaytri

I feel like I want to build a little on what both of you said about love feeling like home and safety. Like in my perception of love, right, I also have that feeling of like, oh, I want this one person to be my home. But like, like I said, I was quite obsessed with romantic love being the only form of love, because that was the one kind of love that I sort of craved because I did not find it readily available or like, seen around me. So that was something that I used to crave a lot. And like, that’s the whole point of like just like me trying to make the person feel like home, except I never really knew what home felt like. So that like lead to some really skewed perceptions of love. But obviously rom-coms and all these romance books that I read did not help at all. They really just skewed it even more. But I feel like feminism has really sort of helped me develop and understand it so much better.

 

Noor

Yeah, adding to what Gaytri was saying, I think the way love has been defined for us is very ambiguous and abstract and it is always something to long for and yearn for and like Pallack mentioned, it makes us feel invincible. And you know, they tell us that everybody wants love, but we remain totally confused about how to actually practice love in our everyday life and how to express love. Yeah.

 

Gaytri

So where did your idea of love originate from, Noor?

 

Noor

I think it’s definitely movies and rom-coms. Also, Disney movies, a lot. I constantly yearn for like a perfect person who was just good at everything – like looks the most amazing, dresses up amazing, does photography, plays the guitar. Just is some invincible person like Superman basically.

 

Pallack

Right out of all our fantasies together as one human being?

 

Noor

Yeah.

 

Gaytri

Yeah. Movies and books really do that to you, right? Like media plays such a big influencing role in our lives, especially in our perceptions of things. And something like love, which is so deeply conditioned in us, ingrained in us, we are told to sort of crave it, want it, need it. It’s like the end goal, right? Like, especially in the Indian context, if you look at it, love is something that is the end goal. Love and marriage. Like they are taken interconnectedly even though they are not. But that’s always the end goal. Like you are fulfilled only if you have a husband or a wife. Like or if you have a family, as they say.

 

Pallack

Right. I think what we’re trying to also maybe understand is that when we say love, we actually mean relationships here, which is that you know, the idea of our entire purpose or existence boiling down to maybe having a very, very fantastic, dream-like relationship? That is full of love and care. However, just however I feel I’ve had the good fortune of understanding and observing and feeling love by perhaps my mother’s affection, which remains currently also the template, the archetype, the entire yardstick against which love is measured, understood or held closely. But just like any young mind, growing up, I think one would always find me sitting right below the television for hours inhaling these movies and TV shows that taught me that maybe not love, but the expression of love looked a certain way. And a very interesting entry point of maybe romantic love was maybe introduced to us through media, beyond the parental affection, into a child’s mind. So maybe try to understand and trace back where it all really started from. What do you think you originally saw or were exposed to that made you understand what relationships could look like?

 

Noor

I was just thinking in terms of, you know, the movies, shows, books, the narratives, we hear about love, I feel like all of those narratives have been written by men. And all my life I’ve thought that, you know, love is primarily a topic that women contemplate about with more intensity and vigor than anybody else. But even then, the theories of love have been written by men, and I would like to quote bell hooks. She says that “men theorize about love, but women are more often love’s practitioners” (snap, snap, snap snap).

 

Gaytri

I love bell hooks. Yeah, I feel like she’s one of the greatest writers ever. Yeah, for me, I guess if I have to like, really go back and like see where it all began, I guess maybe this is just my perception. But I feel like for all of us, we are types of love. They all formulate at the very beginning, you know, in our families. It’s the way we see it, the way we experience it in our homes that we find out what we miss or what we want and we make that our love language, sort of. So for me in my family, like there was not a lot of affection or love between my parents. And I was an only child for a very long time till I was about nine. So for those formative years, that was just a lack of affection, right? And that kind of translated into me having my love language as words of affirmation and touch, you know, that is something that I developed because that is the way I wanted affection. That was something that was missing in me. But also I find myself performing a lot of acts of service because that’s how I saw love being shown to me by my parents. That’s how I ended up doing it. Like if you look at things in a cultural perspective, say in the South Asian context, right? You see so many posts and so many people talking about how Asian parents always just cut up fruit and give them to you, which is something that I have experienced, like when my dad came back to live with us, I would be studying and he would just come and bring me fruit. I would not talk to him at all, the entire day. Like we would not have conversations at all, but he would try and show his love to me by just making me food.

 

Pallack

Right… Don’t you think that in a lot of ways that’s how we’ve come to imbibe these practices? It’s interesting that you said that this is how you’ve experienced it in your formative years and it makes me curious how our parents, our respective parents have come to understand and practice the expression of love through their experiences, perhaps their formative years. How perhaps even their parents offered love in the form of acts of service. Having to check with you for having to call you. These are all forms of communication, but with the hint of love in the name of protection, in the name of care, in the name of support. These expressions are very, very misunderstood or misrepresented. So perhaps you all try to understand what it is that makes us express the way that we do. Because when I like to think of what it is that could be my love language, I completely align with words of affirmation and touch. But very interestingly it’s also because that’s the only form of love I’ve witnessed, not the form of love if you understand. So it’s interesting that means that we could have that same alignment even though we’ve experienced it by growing up. So maybe Noor could help us understand what it is that she is expressed when it comes to love language.

 

Noor

I think for me, I’ve always thought of love language as spending quality time together. Not not even quality time, just spending time together, being physically present together and listening to each other talk. Yeah, I do not expect them to do anything for me or nor do I do anything for them. But what I would do is make the person feel held and as I said before, just be present.

 

Gaytri

I think that’s a great way to build a lot of love and harmony in your relationships. I think it brings a lot of comfort to just be sitting with somebody for a while. (Yeah) Like at times I don’t want to talk. I just want to be held. And I think that’s not the first.

 

Pallack

How can you feel loved and held at the same time? What kind of experiences make you feel loved and held at the same time?

 

Gaytri

I think it’s when, if I’m feeling down, I think just somebody just being there telling me it’s going to be okay and they have my back. I think that really makes me feel very comforted and very loved because it’s just really nice when somebody is just there, you know?

 

Noor

What about you, Pallack?

 

Pallack

So I would like to think that a large portion of how I understand love would be these borrowed ideas from these very, very skewed narratives like we were discussing, that love needs to be grand and love needs to be very quantifiable. On the outside, it should be seen, it should be visible. But I’ve also come to that when it’s time to maintain and nurture relationships, whether they’re romantic, platonic, even as dynamic with our caregivers or somebody that we are providing care to, that love can be very, very. It can be as simple as a “How are you?’ And it can be as simple as just here to let you know that if you need anything, I’m going to be present through it. I think sometimes the idea of love or how we feel about it can make us feel very strict about how we experience it with ourselves as well. So if we’re trying to offer our support, love and a lot of unconditionality, even by our own bodies or by our own selves, if it is not something that we can be, that we can measure and quantify, it may not often feel enough and so a lot of our talk about love, about “self-love” is also extremely, extremely nuanced because we don’t know how to hold enough space for our own bodies, for our own mind, because we’ve never really understood how to explore it with those around us. So I think the first part that I really do, what I think of love and care is, even with this, is to be gentle. I think it’s a beautiful step in the rule. Understanding the case that is what the outcome is, the approach will uniformly be gentle and that is a rather bigger implication of support than what the words actually mean, thank you. The other smaller element, but a very integral one, is to simply understand that when I think of communication so communicating the right gestures I feel so often if all of you agree, we used to learn this a lot which is you know, “It was not my intention to say this” or “It was not my intention to deliver this”. I think it’s very integral to understand that we all come from different walks of life and so we carry a different size of baggage and we feel the weight of this baggage very differently. And have spent 100% of our life relying on our core beliefs to sustain us. So when we think of partnership, whether it’s in any form of dynamic to blend into someone else’s way of being can be very complex and critical. The only thing that I think we may want to reflect on is the biases that we carry before we hold others accountable for their role. And so we may want to constantly offer curiosity. I think curiosity is the only form of love that I’m trying to explore currently. Curiosity before consensus, and I think when we think of healthy love as well, healthy relationships, supportive love, it could look very different to each of us. And so maybe we just start by developing the practice, maybe the language to value our needs and then revise the needs of the relationship. Any thoughts?

 

Noor

I really resonate with the idea of curiosity. I think for me also, I expect that in the space of a loving relationship, there should be space for experimentation and exploration and discovery. Like to reach outwards and to reach inwards as well to explore who you are and who the other person is. I think that’s the way I look at curiosity.

 

Gaytri

Adding to that, so Pallack mentioned two points – one about self-love and one about the curiosity. So I’ll talk about curiosity first. I think it is so important to continue to stay invested and interested in somebody’s life. I think that that is what keeps a relationship alive and healthy. And I mean it in the sense of all relationships, even in friendships. I feel like through books and movies, everybody tries to make love seem so effortless. But it is not. (Yeah, absolutely). It is not. It is a lot of work that you are constantly putting in. You are constantly choosing to be there for somebody you know. In your friendships, in your romantic relationships, in your professional relationships, in all sorts of relationships, every day you are choosing to be there for a particular person. And it takes a lot of effort, time, and energy to care for somebody (Right). And staying curious is extremely important. Now coming back to the self love point. So while you were talking about self love, I was just thinking about how when we talk about love and care, the first thought that comes to us is always about others. It is never internal. It is never ‘I love myself or I love taking care of myself. (I wish to build a relationship with myself.) Yeah, there. We oftentimes forget the most important person in our life, which is our own selves, especially when people are in love or they care about people. We oftentimes tend to forget about ourselves or we lose ourselves in our relationships. We get so consumed by the different forms of love and affection. And because it takes so much time and effort, right, we forget to put that sort of time and effort into building a relationship with our own selves as well. It is really important to connect with our own selves, to know what we want, to know what we like, to spend some time with ourselves as well. I think if we are not in sync with ourselves, it’s really difficult to have a healthy, loving relationship with others. So what do you guys think? What makes a relationship full of comfort or harmony?

 

Pallack

I completely agree. I think the word that I often use to explain is ‘effort’ because there are certain words that because we are down sometimes and maybe effort comes with a little bit of that weight, which is I think relationships and nurturing relationships as a result of a lot of skill and labour. Often people around me, just as I was mentioning before, would want to garner trust in communication by saying “My intention is to communicate this”, “My intention is to help you understand something”, but it is never followed enough or followed up with some language. And while I deeply agree, I do feel your intention is integral to what it is that you’re trying to achieve. It is also just as integral to develop a skill where our communication or communication style and our intent are also aligned. So I feel one cannot trump the existence of the other. It’s also important to consider that when I say skill based relationships, I don’t mean that in order to be in a relationship, in order to offer nurturing a relationship, one has to develop a certain amount of skill as a prerequisite. It comes with experiential learning. It comes with the diversity and the richness of many, many different relationships of our life. However, it is the consistency and the perseverance that helps me understand what can allow me to be more present for myself and those around me.

 

Noor

So for me, a relationship which has comfort and harmony… I think the first thing that should be there is honesty and authenticity from all the parties present in the relationship. Like just being true to each other I think really makes a difference. Another thing that I would think of could be empathy, really understanding each other because it’s really, really beautiful to be understood by somebody else and to understand somebody else. Another thing is respect. Definitely. I think no matter what their beliefs, actions or ideas are, it is important to always respect them.

 

Pallack

Thank you Noor, for that really insightful conversation. In therapy, this is something we often say, which is, relationships can break us, but relationships can also heal us. This is how we come to our conclusion today. With our ever-evolving relationships with relationships, it’s through this vicarious learning, some painful and some joyous experiences that we attempt to theorize our understanding of love and care. Where is it you get your ideas of love? Is it the same as it was growing up? What is or what can be your love language? How do you find a way to express them not just to those around you, but also yourself? These questions stay with us through the morning chai and the evening coffee.

 

Noor

To our listeners, thank you for joining us and listening in today. We really appreciate your support. If you liked this episode, please follow us on Instagram and Facebook @OneFutureCollective and @onefuture_india on Twitter. And keep an eye out for future episodes of “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #OneFutureFellows2022”. Please leave your questions, comments or feedback for us on Anchor or in our DMs. We look forward to hearing your thoughts. Until next time, take care of yourself and we hope that we can explore more together.

 

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Resources mentioned by the hosts

  1. All about Love by bell hooks: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/17607

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Explorations on Feminist Leadership 2022-23 | S1: Episode 1

Episode 1: Reimagining Labour Relations

Over the years, the issues on labour relations regarding women have centred around unpaid/underpaid work, feminization of migration, unfavourable working conditions for women in low-paying jobs and marginalisation of women in decision-making roles. Ayushmita, Anshika and Ludmila choose to reimagine and reassess these labour relations by trying to deconstruct patriarchal capitalism in light of contemporary events. They explore what social justice should look like in the labour market for women and how effective unionisation along with legal reforms can help women workers as feminist leaders.

About the hosts

Ayushmita is a social development researcher interested in gender and specialising in sexual and reproductive health and rights and invisible disabilities. She has worked with organisations like International Growth Centre, J-PAL, Centre for Budget and Governance Accountability, etc. She works on gender-responsive budgeting, mainstreaming disability in SRHR, and neurodiversity inclusion at workplaces. She is also a painter, cook, gardener, and cat mom and believes in cat revolution.

Anshika is currently working as a political consultant. She has worked with nonprofits, think tanks on different issues and considers herself as an imperfect feminist who desires to learn.

Ludmila Khan is a development professional from Dhaka, Bangladesh. She has a Bachelor’s degree in Development Studies and has previously worked in organisations such as the UNDP. One of her major areas of interest for the last few years has been to rehabilitate the sex-workers in Bangladesh and to help build a strong footing for their children in mainstream society.

Content Warnings (mentions or allusions to): Oppression of Women, Exploitation of Women’s Labour, Financial Abuse, Poverty, Oppression of Migrant Workers and Factory Workers, COVID 19, Colonising, Forced Sterilisation, Patriarchy, Capitalism, Violence, Hysterectomy

Transcript

Ayushmita

Hello and welcome to “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by OneFutureFellows2022”, a podcast by the 2022 cohort of the One Future Fellows, where we discuss, examine, and learn about all things about feminist leadership. I am Ayushmita and my pronouns are she/her.

 

Anshika

Hi everyone, I’m Anshika and my pronouns are she/her.

 

Ludmila

Hello, I am Ludmila, my pronouns are she/her and today we will be discussing about how we can reimagine labour relations by understanding how labour relations intersect with feminist values.

 

Anshika

So to understand the labour relations, we did a lot of research, trying to understanding how we work, how our work means and helps work, and how all industries function, hire and pay labour. And how does this intersect with women’s rights and impacts the life of the marginalized women?

 

Ayushmita

We will also talk about who does our work and why should all feminist leaders care about it?

 

Ludmila

You know, every time I think of labour relations, my inner feminist always directs me towards the unpaid labour of housewives, who in this case, happens to be my mother. I grew up seeing my mother do all the household chores, and yet when someone asked her what her occupation was, she would always reply that she did not do anything. And this kept bugging me as a child until, you know, many years later as an undergrad student, I did this course in gender and development and I learned that feminists actually have a term for it, and Robin Morgan calls this as Gross National Product Invisibility.

 

Ayushmita

When you think about it, the term invisibility is quite significant here because it also in a way, indicates how women have been forced to be invisible in spaces of power and decision-making, simply because we do not acknowledge what they do as work. I can think of another powerful quote – “Women do everything but control nothing.”

 

Anshika

This invisibility, underrepresentation, denial – whatever you want to call it, has been backed by almost all statistics for decades. The UN Women statistics report that women’s unpaid care or domestic work is equivalent to 10, add to 39% of the GDP across the world, and can contribute to the economy more than sectors such as manufacturing, commerce or transportation.

 

Ludmila

And to this day, no matter how much we have advanced in the path of feminism, it is still very much true that domestic work or care work is still seen as women’s work and it is mostly done by women. For example, in India and Bangladesh, it is reported that women spend 7 and three times, respectively, more than their male counterparts doing domestic and care work. You know, like Ayushmita said, she talked about invisibility. This invisibility does lead to women being oppressed because when you’re doing household chores all the time and not getting paid for it, it means you’re being financially dependent on the male or other earning family members. And as such, women have no access to the decision-making spaces in the families, which also translates to their position in the broader society. Also, since women are expected to do domestic work, it means that they get to spend less time in paid labour and even when they’re engaged in paid labour, coming back home, they’re still expected to do the domestic work, which means they have a double day or the second shift, which means despite working longer hours than men, they’re still not compensated financially. And at the same time, I think the fact that women are expected to do work at home is also a mechanism that restricts them to the private space of life, which restricts their physical and economic mobility, their opportunities to learn and also other opportunities that could have enabled them to earn and participate in the formal labour market, which in a way provides a structural advantage to men across culture societies.

 

Ayushmita

Something that I always have wondered about, is how women’s housework that is quite visible and relevant in our day-to-day lives is equally invisible in the economy. It is what sustains not only families, but the work that women do in their homes is what sustains the economy. Think about the care work they provide for the elderly and the children. Their work essentially substitutes social services, benefiting governments in many countries.

 

Anshika

Actually, Ayushmita, I can think of a campaign that held very similar views, the Wages for Housework campaign by Maria Della Costa and Salma James. It added that women provided food, clothes, emotional care to current and future workers and in a way kept capitalism functioning. They also demanded that men’s employers compensate women for their housework, that an insured benefits the employers, otherwise they would have to finance this through their own money.

 

Ludmila

Wow. Thinking of how women’s domestic work has so much economic significance and so often is not considered as actual work makes me wonder who gets to define what work is. I feel like I’ve been quoting Robin Morgan a little too much in this podcast, but I find her quote to be very relevant for this portion. She says that “women are the world’s proletariat and have no voice even in defining what work means”. When you look at the work of socialist feminists, they use the concept of ‘capitalist patriarchy’ or ‘patriarchal capitalism’ to show how women have no agency in defining work. You know patriarchy says that women should do the work at home and that helps capitalism in determining that males will be the primary labor force, as they’re no longer restricted to stay at home. As a result, the combination of capitalism and patriarchy ensures that women are the secondary labor force and that they’re not compensated properly for their work.

 

Anshika

Actually, Ludmila, I think the domestic workers/helpers we have today are the perfect examples of patriarchal capitalism or capitalist patriarchy like you just mentioned. In fact, an International Labour Organization report said that among the 75.6 million domestic workers worldwide, 76.2% were women. And this reinforced the idea that housework, even then at a spade is still very much a woman’s to me. And even if you look at, you know, Siri – all these electronic instruments are also in the sense, speak in a feminist voice. So it just talks about it being women.

 

Ayushmita

Quite unsurprisingly, domestic work under capitalism is considered informal labour, meaning that even when employed women domestic workers are deprived from the provisions of labour laws and Social Security, proving that they are still seen as the secondary labour force.

 

Ludmila

You two are absolutely right. You know, I come from a very well off family in Bangladesh and just like most of the people I know, I have had domestic workers in my household all my life and they have all been women. You know, while I was researching on the domestic workers in Bangladesh for this podcast, I kept remembering something that my mother very often says. She would talk about one of the domestic workers who work in our house and she’d tell me, you know, she works twice as hard than most people I know. Yet somehow she never manages to come out of poverty. And you know, I would actually be surprised if she managed to stop being poor because of the structural disadvantage she has. I was reading a policy brief by an organisation that works for women domestic workers, and they reported that a domestic worker in Bangladesh earns only 59 U.S. Dollar per month, which is equivalent to 5000 Bangladeshi Taka. And in one of my courses during my undergrad, I actually calculated the poverty line income in 2021 in Bangladesh and that was 16,000 BDT, which means that domestic workers aren’t below the poverty line income, meaning that it’s not possible for them to come out of poverty. And since I’m talking about their wages and how it’s below the poverty line, it made me wonder who determines these wages? And apparently, one of the reasons why domestic workers cannot bargain for regular or more pay is because they have no bargaining power. And I think this is exactly where feminist leadership comes into play and can help us in envisioning a better future for domestic workers. In Bangladesh, domestic work is still informal labour, so they don’t have the legal backing for forming trade unions. But the workers who are part of informal trade unions, they report that they were able to bargain for better wages due to their collective organisation. And I think if the people or the policymakers who work for the welfare of the domestic workers, if they could encourage more feminist leaders to form trade unions for domestic workers, then this would be a way in which we can solve the plights of the domestic workers. Something that I found relevant in this case is that during COVID-19, a lot of the factory workers, since they have trade unions, they could bargain for their jobs and they could bargain for health equipment while they were working. But for domestic workers, even though they are very essential in our daily lives, since they don’t have that formal unionisation, they not only lost their jobs but the people who kept working in the middle of the pandemic, they did not have any access to proper health equipment. So that’s for me, that’s a space where feminist leadership can work.

 

Ayushmita

Talking about labour in today’s time is quite incomplete without diving into the migrant workers’ plight during the first and second waves of the COVID-19 pandemic, especially in India. Here we saw a large number of migrant workers trying to go back to their villages, their homes. The lockdown was not thought out or pragmatic at all, it was as if we do not care about those who do not enjoy sufficient social security. And even within the scope of migrants, women migrants are the most marginalised.

 

Ludmila

Yes, in fact, over the last decade there has been significant feminization of migration in all the developing countries. Women are no longer migrating just to get married, but to also find better work opportunities and to supplement their family incomes. Laws and policies have not been able to keep up with this shift. We see that the migration patterns are not studied well. There is no data collection at the national level. Female migration is still poorly studied and special health related concerns of female migrants is also not well understood. This leads to an incredible lack of systematic data collection and even poor monitoring of the situation. And this is very much a feminist issue.

 

Anshika

Absolutely, Ludmila! And in fact 50% of the women who migrate for work are domestic workers and they are engaged in jobs such as cleaning, cooking and taking care of children. They also work in the tailoring and construction industry and factories. We will talk about each of these areas of work and associated problems to make it clearer for our listeners just how deep rooted this problem is and what is its magnitude. Ayushmita, why don’t you give our listener some numbers?

 

Ayushmita

Sure. Female migrant workers, regardless of the industry in which they are working, live in extremely poor conditions. They have a monthly income of less than 5000 Indian National Rupees. Only about 17 to 18% of them have a bank account which they actively use, making them severely financially vulnerable. The issue is that our labour laws continue to ignore the fact that there are thousands of women who are employed in the informal sector and that there is no law or policy protecting their rights. 70% of women who are migrant workers in India do not get paid for any overtime. They are also frequently called to work beyond their usual hours, which is not surprising because their work is unregulated and unprotected. If we take the example of the construction industry, which is the second last largest industry in India after agriculture, 49% of the labourers in this industry are women, which is almost half. But these women are denied skilling opportunities because of which they are never able to become masons or carpenters. They continue to remain unskilled and toil in construction sites. Women are even paid less than their male counterparts. A woman will earn ₹300 a day, whereas a man doing the exact same job will get ₹500 per day. There are no toilets, no safe equipment and many of these women hail from some of the poorest parts of India. They do not know their rights. The contractor benefits from this and the government has also been unable to regulate the situation.

 

Ludmila

Not just that, safety is also a major issue and I’d like to thank you both for introducing me to the Indian laws and realising that they are a double edged sword for women informal workers. A lot of women are losing opportunities in the manufacturing industries because of laws which date back to pre pre-independence era and which have definitely not aged well. As per these laws, women cannot work in factories between 7:00 PM and 5:00 PM, and this often becomes a reason why they are not promoted to managerial roles. This is something that’s also similar to the RMG industries in Bangladesh, which we will talk about later in this podcast. And interestingly, states have made provisions for nurses and midwives to work beyond these hours because these are considered typically feminine roles.

 

Anshika

Exactly. So if we are citing safety, disallowing women to work beyond 7:00 PM in an establishment, by the same logic they should not have to work in stretches at these hours too. right? I mean, I think we as a society have the tendency to bend the laws in a way which suits our patriarchal mindsets.

 

Ayushmita

Absolutely. Women are banned from working in so-called dangerous situations and areas which need a lot of physical and manual work. Now this is intriguing because even though it has been decades since safe equipment has been introduced in the industries, the law has not changed. In fact, the construction industry, which is something that we just talked about, is full of manual tough work. And these laws do not apply there because we need our buildings to be built on cheap, disposable labour. The female body continues to be colonised 7 decades after the colonisers left and our bodies are seen as means to generate progeny. In fact, one law in India actually says that women cannot work in like liquor shops to avoid sexual violence. It is as if our mere presence and the fact that we are trying to make a living is reason enough for violence.

 

Ludmila

In fact, Ayushmita, we should ask the listeners to read about what is in the big district of Maharashtra, like you were telling me the other day.

 

Ayushmita

Oh, definitely. In Maharashtra, where female farm workers and sugar cane plantations are forced to undergo hysterectomies so that they can work longer hours, do not get periods, etc. We will add some resources in the show notes and I will urge our listeners to take a look at it.

 

Anshika

Actually, I think in my dictionary all this is violence.

 

Ayushmita

Yeah, absolutely.

 

Anshika

So now that we have been talking about the migrant workers, etc., have you guys actually heard about the unpaid workers at Istanbul? Especially the female workers who hid notes about the unfair working hours and unsafe working conditions and poor pay and attached them to the dresses?

 

Ayushmita

Yeah, and these industries are more women dominated right.

 

Ludmila

Absolutely. You know Bangladesh has been doing very well economic growth wise and one of the main reasons for such economic success is the readymade garments industry and what I find surprising and perhaps very appalling is the fact that majority of the workers in these industries are women and they’re treated very unfairly.

 

Anshika

Well, you both are absolutely right. You know what, more than 70% of the garment workers in China are women. And as Ludmila already mentioned, in Bangladesh the share is like 85% and in Cambodia there’s almost 90%. But you know, the assumption that the development and your empowerment are correlated is actually just not true because those women are earning money but they are still not very empowered.

 

Ayushmita

I agree, absolutely. Development is so much more than just earning wages. It is about having work security, moving out of poverty, providing education and health care for children, growing as an individual. It is so much more.

 

Ludmila

And I find it so sad how most of the workers, especially women, in the global South, are deprived from all this.

 

Anshika

Yeah, in fact I think most of the workers, they just work for poverty wages and in absolutely dreadful conditions and they have to do an excessive amount of overtime. In fact in Bangladesh, which is like the world’s second largest exporter of clothes, the minimum wage for garment workers is just 5300 Taka, which is far from the 8900 Taka that are needed to cover a worker’s basic needs and is further away from a living wage. Many garment workers work between 60 to 140 hours of overtime per week, and it is common to be cheated of the overtime pay.

 

Ayushmita

Oh, let’s not even go into health and safety. Women workers are denied even washroom breaks in some cases.

 

Ludmila

And you know what? Factory owners have been taking advantage of women’s unequal position in society to form an even cheaper, more docile and flexible workforce. And you know, since I was talking about domestic workers before, I think it is like a common trend to exploit poor, marginalised women in general. So rather than challenge their subordination in society, work in the garment industry is reproducing it.

 

Ayushmita

Absolutely.

 

Ludmila

Instead of empowering women, I feel like all these employment opportunities are acting as a mechanism to further make them more subordinated and more marginalised. You know, women tend to earn significantly less than men. They face systematic discrimination, and they’re only able to access the lowest paid jobs with very poor prospects for promotion. Many of them have low work security, and if they’re not prepared to work on the terms set out by their employers, they run the risk of losing their jobs. So whether it’s the garment industry or whether it’s the domestic work industry, the scenario for women workers doesn’t really change.

 

Anshika

Oh yeah, in fact, in many places women are not even part of the unions. Though many brave women from Bangladesh to Cambodia to Honduras, they are defying the threat, violence, oppression, and the capitalist forces in order to defend their basic rights. Their struggle is the key for the development of workers, their families and whole societies. And it is also an empowering effect for the other women who are majorly marginalised and discouraged to act politically. This could be really emancipatory change for women and a chance to move out of poverty and become stronger and more independent.

 

Ayushmita

After our discussion, we think it is important that we make some recommendations that can ensure the incorporation of a feminist lens that we are re-imagining when we talk about labour relations. We recommend and strongly advocate for redefining the concept of work, grassroots unionisation of female workers which will ensure representation, define minimum wages, legal reforms, inclusive social security and benefits, occupational health and safety measures, and upskilling for female workers across labour markets.

 

Ludmila

We talked about a lot of things and honestly, I have always been very, very interested to understand labour relations through a feminist lens. For me, it’s very important that we question who gets to define what work is and why women, in most cases, are delegated to work that puts them into danger, and that does not compensate them according to the work they’re doing. So like we said, feminist leadership is essential in understanding and reimagining labour relations because it will push women into leadership positions where they’re going for more collective actions and where they’re trying to unionise and have more bargaining power in a society that structurally disadvantages them at every single stage. So for our listeners, I would really ask them to reflect on what we have discussed and maybe add their own ideas and thoughts to it. We really appreciate your support.

 

Ludmila

If you like this episode, please follow us on Instagram and Facebook @OneFutureCollective and @onefuture_india on Twitter. And keep an eye out for future episodes of “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #OneFutureFellows2022”.

 

Ludmila

Please leave your questions, comments, or feedback for us on Anchor or in our DMs. We look forward to hearing your thoughts. Until next time, take care of yourself and we hope that we can explore more together. I’d like to end the podcast with the hope for a world that is more feminist and that aspires for social justice across all sectors.

 

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Resources mentioned by the hosts

  1. Wages for Housework Campaign: https://riseupfeministarchive.ca/activism/organizations/wages-for-housework/

Mapping and negotiating power

Uncuff India Episode 10: Dimensions of conflict and peace: visioning a utopian world

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Uncuff India Episode 3: Protection and Power: the values of the Indian Police Force

The third episode of the series examines the perceptions regarding the police and its relationship with different individuals and groups on the basis of their social identities. The police system is slowly becoming a weapon of choice for ensuring discipline and the episode dives into the values that guide this. The episode also delves into the messaging around the police force and the multiple ways in which it is expressed and/or experienced.

We are joined by the passionate Neeraj Shetye in this episode. Neeraj is the Partnerships and Communications Manager at the Oxford India Centre for Sustainable Development (OICSD) at Somerville College, University of Oxford. Prior to OICSD, Neeraj worked at the Oxford Internet Institute as a Research Support Officer.  Neeraj consults grassroots collectives in India on program design and outreach.

 

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Transcript

[Intro]

Sanchi

Hello everyone and welcome to our podcast Uncuff India by One Future Collective. My name is Sanchi and my pronouns are she, her.

Uttanshi

My name is Uttanshi and my pronouns are she and her. We are your hosts today and it’s so good to have you all listening in.

[Intro ends]

Uttanshi

In today’s episode, we will unpack police brutality by situating it in the context of the Indian socio economic and political context. It will also explore whether police brutality and the institution of law enforcement are characterised by any notions of toxic masculinity.

Sanchi

Yes, thank you, Uttanshi. As we know, police brutality has, over the past years, become a weapon of choice for many states to douse or weaken any protests or unrest. Not only has the regular recurrence made it normal but it has also begun to be glorified as a desired medium for ensuring law and order. The perception of the police force as a means of protection is rapidly changing in how only a very select few are protected at the expense of others and it can now then be argued that the police has become a mere symbol of state power.

Uttanshi

To discuss this and to share their insights on the topic with us, we have with us Neeraj. Neeraj is an aspiring public policy researcher with an interest in Indian social policy and its social justice approach. He is currently working as the Research Support Officer at the Oxford Internet Institute at the University of Oxford. Most recently, he graduated with an MSc in Politics of Conflict Rights and Justice from the School of Oriental, Asian and African Studies (SOAS), University of London. At SOAS, he was affiliated with the Center on Conflict Rights and Justice as a graduate Research associate and worked as a SOAS Digital Ambassador. At SOAS, he co-curated a three-day conference celebrating 75 years of Indian independence with a progressive critique of the system ‘India at 75 in Review’. He has been involved with grassroots initiatives in India since the COVID-19 pandemic such as Khana Chahiye Foundation, a hunger relief operation in Mumbai, and Eklavya India Foundation in Central India. Thank you so much Neeraj for taking the time out to be able to participate in this podcast and to share your really valuable insights. We’re very excited to hear from you and learn from you over the course of this episode.

Neeraj

Thank you Uttanshi and thank you Sanchi for the introduction and thank you for this opportunity. I’m glad to be connected with One Future Collective today.

Sanchi

Thank you so much, Neeraj. And yes, thanks for joining us today to discuss this extremely pertinent topic and we are really looking forward to hear from you on it. So let me start straight away and ask you- what are your own thoughts about the police. How do you perceive the police system and if this perception has changed over the years?

Neeraj

To be frank, I think I need to clarify my positionality and that’s very important because when one talks about police brutality and one talks about the perception of police, it’s important to know the socioeconomic background of the person who’s speaking because that affects a lot of how people view the police. Over the past few years, I’ve realised that my positionality, of course, comes from a much more privileged space where police as a protector was the only way that we saw the police and that’s how it was described in, say, family drawing room discussions that we had and growing up, I mean, some of my family members were a part of that institution. So that created this perception of police being the protective force for the general population, but over the past few years, I realised that, you know, with my work on the field and with engaging with initiatives on the ground, the perception is different and not everyone looks at the police with the same mindset and that has led me to question the whole idea of whether the police force is merely a protective force. Can it be an oppressive force, and if yes, then what are the ways in which we can sort of reform it? But yeah, my perception has changed over the past years and that is only due to my engagement with activists and grassroots collectives and communities on the ground.

Uttanshi

Thank you so much for that, Neeraj. I feel, you know when I was listening to you speak, even I was thinking about what my perception initially was given my background, my family, and similar to you what I heard my parents describe the police to be and how it has changed. Do you want to share a little bit about- what do you think led to this change in perception for you and what do you think forms the core of the police system? And do you think that the messaging around the police itself is reflective of, or you know, or believes in this core themselves? What are the agents from which this messaging is received about the police, what they do, who they are, what is their role in the society, etc.

Neeraj

Right, so I’ll answer your first question. I inherently see like multiple questions in this one conversation. So, the first question is about perception and how it changed and for me it was during the pandemic, the COVID-19 pandemic of 2020 when I started engaging with Khana Chahiye Foundation, which was a hunger relief operation, and we worked on the ground and it was a civil society led initiative which was of course, had to be in tandem with the local government body, the police system and all of that. We reached out to communities in Mumbai specifically and around Mumbai who were absolutely in distress, and these were communities who had lost their only source of livelihood. And for us, COVID-19 was not like, for us who were on the ground, COVID-19 was not just a health emergency; it eventually became like this livelihoods emergency because people often said on the ground that, you know, COVID might not kill us, but hunger will, because there was people didn’t have the basic necessities for themselves. And in this whole situation, you could see people doing the absolute, you know, people resorting to absolutely desperate measures to ensure that their family is supported. They would go out. These were daily wage earners, right, so, they used to go out, try, to like, sometimes beg but also sell stuff on the ground and this was during the lockdown, so of course they were not met with the empathy that they deserved. And police became that force that was tasked with ensuring discipline on the streets and they would often, you know, resort to violence, straight up violence in these communities and their only explanation to us was that, you know, if you don’t instill this kind of discipline with the lathi, people wouldn’t listen to them. So, it was almost like they had infantilized the whole population and that was like the beginning of how I started viewing the police not just as the protective force, but also like this patronizing force that was trying to instill, that was apparently tasked with instilling discipline in the population, which is, which I feel is should not be how the police system functions because that’s not their responsibility to instill this certain idea of discipline into the population. The idea is to ensure that there is law and order and to ensure that you know things can things are moving swiftly and smoothly as possible but resorting to violence for towards the general population is not the way to go and that doesn’t create a very, that doesn’t help the police perception to be very honest. What are the core ideals now? I believe that I don’t know what forms the core ideal, of course, violence might be one of it. Discipline, as in a certain idea of discipline also forms this core idea of the Indian police system. But I know for a fact that empathy doesn’t form, empathy is not a part of those core values. And of course, that doesn’t mean I’m generalizing. There are, of course, I’ve come across police officers who have been quite empathetic towards, you know, but those are as individuals outside, sometimes even outside the police, outside the police uniform they have been empathetic individuals. But in general, I don’t feel empathy is a part of the police system and there are a lot of problems to that. We can discuss it later, but I feel, yeah, that’s the problem. The core values are very rigid. There’s a certain idea of, you know, control that the police resort to and that is, I feel, not so relevant into this society.

Sanchi

Yeah. Thank you so much for sharing that with us, Neeraj and something that you mentioned really stood out to me that how violence may be seen as a core value of the police system, especially in India, but empathy unfortunately is not. And taking from that, you have also already mentioned right in the beginning the importance of looking at one’s own positionality when thinking about what our perception of the police system is. Taking on from that, I would like to ask you how do you think different people perceive or experience the system of police and how different it is for different people, how does it happen or what do you think forms the basis for this difference? And I think the core values that we just spoke of may have a lot to do with it, so I’m curious to know your thoughts on it.

Neeraj

Fundamentally, I feel the way police as a unit is even looked at changes a lot of things and this is rooted in the socioeconomic backgrounds of individuals, communities in spaces like metropolitan spaces like Mumbai and I can speak for Mumbai, but I know a lot of these factors might be the same in other parts of the country, might not be the same- again, there are other factors. There are other social factors such as you know, the religion of an individual, caste identity of an individual, all of these factors do contribute, but in urban spaces like Mumbai also like economic factors, right. Your class background matters and that generally shapes the opinion one has of the police, so you would see like, I mean the bottom strata of the society, the lower class, the working-class communities of the city is often scared of the police in a way. I mean there’s a certain form of fear which is not the same among middle class or upper middle class or upper even the upper class of the society, right, the economically well-off class of the society. They look at police in a very different way and I’ve engaged with all kinds of people in the past few years, and I’ve noticed that the way police exert their power also differs. They know for a fact that working class communities are easy targets, working class communities can be ‘disciplined’, can be used, you know, can be dominated through their perception. So that affects in the way we view the police and also police view themselves, right? So, they are, certainly, like I’ve seen police members, police officers, change their demeanor over time when they move from neighborhood to neighborhood. So, you’ll have, like someone being excessively dominating in a very, you know that masculine kind of a way in a working-class neighborhood but that same person would be extremely quiet, in a very quiet demeanor in like you know, in an upper middle-class neighborhood. And that’s, I mean that also shows how police view themselves, where and how they operate in certain spaces, so I feel socioeconomic factors do contribute to a lot of perceptive reality. I mean, of course middle-class background, I mean people coming from the middle-class often have representation in the police force, so they have a very different way of looking at the police. They look at them as a fellow community member, but that’s not the case for people coming from working-class neighborhoods. A lot of them do not have that kind of representation in the police force so they often look at the police as like a danger more than more than someone that they can look up to for protection. So yeah, that, I mean that’s the way I think socioeconomic factors contribute a lot.

Sanchi

Yeah, I think it is. That highlights very well how the class background of a person might so deeply affect how they view the police and I was wondering if you’d also like to shed some light on how a person’s identity markers such as caste or gender might also play into this perception.

Neeraj

Absolutely. I mean, as I mentioned before, when we work in the working-class neighborhoods of the city, now who is the working class, right? A majority of the working-class neighborhoods that we have worked in came from religious minority backgrounds, especially Muslims and also oppressed caste communities. Now these communities haven’t had that kind of privilege where they could participate in the labor force in the same way that other communities have and a lot of these communities are Dalit Bahujan. Communities who have settled in these certain, you know, ghettoized neighborhoods, and that’s an offensive word in a way, but I mean, social scientists tend to call them these ghettos around the city, and communities here have clustered themselves in and these are specific neighborhoods. Anybody who works on the field knows for a fact that this is the reality on the ground and anyone who disagrees with it clearly hasn’t is clearly intentional or doesn’t know how to look at the society in a general way. So, if you look at Indian society, of course most majority, I mean most metropolitan cities would have these clusters which are deemed to be dangerous, right? And we have noticed that they are given some very offensive slang terms which I do not want to repeat them on today here, but I think people would know what those slangs would be and those are very offensive, often associated with religious minorities, often associated with oppressed caste communities. This idea of criminalization is imposed on these communities and that’s the reality. I mean it’s time for, I feel people coming from privileged backgrounds, social scientists coming from privileged backgrounds to accept that reality, acknowledge that there is something fundamentally wrong with their own communities and start reflecting on those values themselves rather than, you know, preaching some form of ideas onto the already oppressed community. So, I think those ideas matter, those identity markers are exceptionally important when one analyzes police in general, policing forces in general, yeah.

Uttanshi

Thank you so much, Neeraj and while I was listening to you speak, there’s just so much to, I think think back to you know and while you were speaking, I’m thinking where are these ideas of violence, disciplining, protection, etc. coming from, right, and how do they drive or shape the police person’s behavior or their actions? And you know, and I know that this is something you study very, very fondly and you know, you’ve been very interested to understand this phenomenon as well but, you know, tying back to the point about what you said, right, almost clearly that came out of what you were saying was empathy is not a part of the system, maybe as part of an individual person when they are not wearing their uniform, but there is a certain level of violence, a certain duty towards maintaining discipline, a certain level of harshness, if I may say so, that gets associated with the identity of a police person. What do you think drives that identity and what do you think, you know, is there something that drives that identity at all? And if yes, what according to you, is that?

Neeraj

Of course, there is this idea, this very idea of masculinity that drives it, that you know someone has to be more assertive, someone who has to be physically, you know, in a particular shape, of course has to be like this macho person, if I can use that word, and should have that certain idea of confidence and harshness as Uttanshi said. These ideas are stemming out of this idea of masculinity that has been normalized and this masculinity has taken different shapes over time. And in today’s time, we see a different kind of like a Hindu nationalist masculinity that is being portrayed in a particular way, but of course, there are other forms of masculinity as well. But this core idea of masculine identity, which is considered to be, you know, with this particular idea of voice, tone, physical demeanor, all of these things together form this idea of what ideal policemen or ideal protective force should be. And this comes from a larger idea of defense forces, I feel, so police force is just like the localised form of protection service, but then the larger idea of the military and the defense forces that are there and the way they are shaped right, that inherently also contributes to how localized protection forces or localized even vigilante groups see themselves. This whole idea of ‘hamare Jawan’ (our soldiers) right, I mean ‘Jawan khade hain sarhad par’ (the soldiers guard the borders) and this whole idea of exerting force, dominating and constantly being aggressive and that aggression gets translated into very localised formats. So when I for example, worked on the local right-wing groups in India, I noticed that their idea of masculinity is also stemming from this idea of how the protective forces see themselves, these defense forces see themselves and they would try to nurture it. I felt that these were people who had aspirations to join these forces but never got through, which is why now they are victim of this whole idea of this whole notion of Hindu nationalism and dominating certain other oppressed groups. So it’s very, it’s not that complicated, but at the same time it is, and the nuance is necessary and we haven’t been able to sort of like, you know, dissect that nuance that well. But it definitely stems from a very aggressive personality that forms the whole idea of Indian masculinity today.

Uttanshi

Yeah, and every time I watch anything to do with, you know, police representation, even in pop culture, for example, there is a very streamlined understanding, appearance, behaviour, you know that that they depict and just thinking back to a few of these shows that you know have aired for I think years now and have been fairly popular, it’s not just to say that you know, only the male police officers behave a certain way. This movement and this reliance on aggression, this reliance on I have more power than you because I am in a certain uniform and I have a certain level of state backing, I think, permeates across genders who serve on these forces as well. This is, of course, not to generalize and to, you know, to echo your point earlier about how it is something that everybody within the forces do, but as a system, it is something that really encourages it that hinges on these. Do you have anything to add to that as well? I’m just curious to know because you know, often when we talk about toxic masculinity, there is an association of genders as well and how it may be useful for us to perhaps think of it as a set of behavior patterns, perhaps a set of, you know, beliefs and attitudes that can permeate across genders as well.

Neeraj

No, I absolutely agree because this idea of masculinity has been so deeply rooted in the police system and as I said before, empathy doesn’t form the core value of it because generally in our Indian understanding, empathy is associated with femininity for some reason, right? I mean, you are not that harsh or you are not a decisive person for some reason and your heart bleeds for somebody constantly are these ideas. I’ve noticed that when you talk about empathy in the context on the ground, you’re often associated with, like, you know not-so-masculine ideas, I don’t want to say exclusively feminine ideas too, but again, not-so-masculine ideas. It doesn’t have a space in toxic masculinity. The only way you show empathy is like towards your family but your masculinity in public arena does not have empathy driving the way you function. And I honestly believe, of course, pop culture has a lot to blame, but then again, this is coming from someone, like for myself, I have distanced myself from engaging with pop culture that much. So, if you ask me, the last film I watched, of course I haven’t watched films in the past, like I haven’t watched a film where they would show something like this in the past year or two. I do watch some documentaries, but that idea still permeates. I mean, I realized that there was some conversation among my friends about Pathaan, a more recent movie also carrying this idea of, you know, this really masculine portrayal of a defense officer and a policing officer, all of that. So, our pop culture has portrayed those values, but how much of it has already been in our system is something that we need to reflect on because, of course, these ideas are coming from somewhere. The pop culture hasn’t really just written it by themselves; there were these ideas already, of course pop culture has exaggerated it now and that kind of creates a pressure on say, women who want to be a part of the policing force, right? I mean, even today, like I don’t think Indian army allows women in combat forces and why doesn’t it allow it? I mean this whole idea that women can’t be violent, or women can’t be associated with anything remotely related to violence and that’s a very, I mean you can see how toxic masculinity there engages with and shapes really, the social fabric of even femininity. What is Indian femininity? What is, I mean who gets to be a part of it, so all of that. So of course, I mean it is does have an effect on gender per se and pop culture does play a big role in shaping how those narratives are portrayed.

Sanchi

Yeah. Thank you so much for bringing up all those very important points, Neeraj and what I’m hearing a lot is about how hegemonic masculinity actually affects the police force and how we’ve been talking about empathy, we’ve been talking about the gendering of the police forces and how that’s so detrimental to everybody involved in the process. And we have understood that it is toxic masculinity that affects a lot of our perception or how the police force itself is constructed, but I want to understand why is that a problem? If that is something, if that is the ethos of the police force, then why do we think that it is a problem that is the core value? And if you do think that it is a problem, then how can we imagine alternatives for it?

Neeraj

I mean, this is so like, this is like asking someone to change the social fabric of the country because that’s the understanding we are rooted in, that understanding of what masculinity is so much that, an alternative to that would be a more empathetic police force and that can only happen, I believe, and this is my personal opinion, of course it can change and people might have different opinions is by two ways, is that you counsel the existing police force into dealing better with, you know, with the constituents, with the communities that they’re dealing with, right. So, if a police officer is posted in like a working-class neighborhood in an urban space, of course they have to be mindful of the power dynamic they have and they share with the community because, of course, it’s not going to be, it’s not that straightforward and it’s going to be a bit, I mean, it’s unbalanced, right? I mean, and the working-class communities will look at the police officer not just as a protective force, but sometimes also as an oppressive force and this is what I’ve seen recurrently on the ground- that people are scared. People are scared by these officers who are expected to serve them, right, by the force that was expected to serve them. So that counselling has to go through. Secondly, I feel recruitment matters a lot because who forms the police force, how many of them are given responsibility in a particular area, all of that matters because the conversations I’ve had with existing police officers, especially even like some of my family members, not my close family, but of course my extended family members, is that there’s a lot of stress and workload on these police officers to solve a certain number of cases every month. And this is again with the fact that they have to appease the politicians, the local politicians, the national politicians, all of these people. So that stress gets added on and all of this comes out when they work and this comes out in a very harsh way on the people unfortunately, on the communities that they’re serving and say, for a fact that if you are posted in a community where you can show that kind of dominance, it just ends up becoming a toxic cycle because then you exert that force on that community, the community doesn’t look at you very nicely and there’s again the problem and that cycle continues. So, I believe recruitment again, there are two aspects of recruitment. One is the number of police officers that are being recruited, the number has to increase for a fact. I know for a fact that Mumbai is, I mean in Maharashtra, the police recruitment was stalled for a couple of years and people were waiting for that and that still didn’t, I mean that didn’t happen and then when it happened, they had fewer seats as compared to the applications that they had. So that’s one problem. Secondly, who constitutes, what is the socioeconomic identity of police officers who are recruited? Because let’s not forget the fact that defense and the police force or these State sponsored roles were a form of social mobility for a lot of oppressed groups. So of course, like people coming from oppressed caste backgrounds, they had their own regiments after a point in the military and that was a form of social mobility because you get certain benefits, you raise your living standards and that has helped a lot of communities come out of absolute poverty and helped with representation. And I personally feel that when the police officer has a lived experience of living through an intimidated environment, they are much more approachable when they are police officers because I’ve worked with, like I’ve seen police officers in action who came from oppressed communities and they knew the realities on the ground. And they, of course like, I’m not saying that they were all innocent or at the same time very violent, but they had a better balance of this, right? I mean for example someone’s a police officer coming from say my community, who is relatively privileged, would not have the same perception towards, I mean, of course they will not have the same perception towards the working-class neighborhoods of the city or the oppressed communities in the city. But if a person is recruited from that community or if young people from there are given an opportunity to be part of police force, not only will they be more approachable to the general populace, but they’ll also be, I mean they would know how to be vigilant without being oppressive. So, I think that kind of reform, there has to be a balanced reform. I mean, I am not someone who would say completely defund, that we don’t need the police force and let the communities do whatever. But at the same time, I wouldn’t say that, you know, you task the police force with every single responsibility. They shouldn’t be in charge of, I mean, we have seen in the past few years how police officers have dealt with, say, victims of sexual assault and victims of rape and they are not the right, they are not the right entity within the force. So, I feel representation as a whole matters and within representation again, I mean this whole idea of who is forming the police force decides how the police force is going to function in a particular neighborhood.

Uttanshi

You know, something that you said that really stood out to me and I that was actually something I wanted to ask you anyway and it seems like a good setup for the follow-up is just, you know, what do you think is the relevance of the police today, especially in the context of police abolition movements? And you know, you’ve already said you’re not in favor of completely defunding the police system and you know, for the communities to be in charge overall and not to have police systems at all. I think at the root of their belief is also the fact that reform is not something that’s possible and realistically doable. But I’m very curious to know, you know, what your thoughts are on that.

Neeraj

As I mentioned before, I mean, of course reform can come in many ways and one way is to have that kind of counselling, training and you know that psychiatric support to the police that is needed that would ensure immediately that can be looked at as a potential solution. But I also don’t understand the abolition movement in India because this is a very US centric approach. I mean when the George Floyd thing happened suddenly there were conversations about police reforms and that showed how little do Indian Liberal activists who started this whole conversation knew about what’s already happening. So, if you speak to organisations who are working with say criminalized or Denotified Tribes and have at the like, I fortunately I could like, I’ve spoken to lawyers, I’ve spoken to activists and development researchers on the ground and their reality is that it’s been happening for every day. Like there’s a George Floyd kind of case happening in India every single day but that never gets any attention from these constant liberal circles of activism which is needed. I feel like you don’t need for a George Floyd thing to happen in the US for a conversation to start in India, it’s very different. Police brutality is a daily occurrence for a lot of communities here and it’s important like when I say I don’t completely believe in defunding the police again it’s a very let me just acknowledge the fact that it’s an opinion coming out of privilege. I mean, of course there are communities who would completely detest for that statement to come in because for them police is an oppressive force and this is more and more real and I think the police force knows about it, but that’s the way they have been trained to function. So, I believe the immediate solution to this problem would be one counseling the police force in a much better way, creating more empathetic police officers who are more understanding in their approach while, I mean, there’s there has to be a balance between instilling whatever the idea of discipline is, but at the same time not go around hitting the lathi to people who are on the ground sometimes even earning their daily wage right. So that kind of empathy is important and secondly I believe representation has the key to at least to solve some of these issues like. If members of the communities that have often been on the oppressed side of the cycle get a chance to be represented in the in the force, in the in the police force, I believe that could change a lot, change police’s perception in general in India in a lot of areas. So that is the solution. So, I don’t completely believe, I don’t buy this whole American idea of you know what is defunding the police because it’s relevant there because the police forces are already getting like they’re overfunded. But in India that’s not the case. I mean I believe a lot of police departments are still underfunded. I mean the more you go towards the grassroots, you realize that police absolutely have not even the basic necessities to support the communities. So sometimes it’s like victims come to them for help, they don’t really have the measures. In general, I mean, cyber cell, the Nirbhaya cell, all happened after major incidences, so we are a very reactionary democracy, right? So we wait for a major incident to happen, after which we start introducing reforms. But that shouldn’t be the case. I think the pandemic was a good learning opportunity. I believe major police forces like Mumbai police force would take that into consideration when they design their training programs, right? They should have more, I mean better training programs, mental health support, maybe for police officers, also for the victims that that are coming to them for seeking help, and let professionals, more and more professionals be integrated into the system who know how to deal with the situation more effectively because a police officer is not a psychologist, not a psychiatrist, is not someone who can provide overall support to anyone. Their job is to ensure law and order, which I think they should be tasked only with that, not with like other responsibilities that would take that time out from here and create newer problems for the society.

Sanchi

Yeah. Thank you so much for bringing that up, Neeraj and I think it’s been very interesting listening to you share this perspective. And of course, nobody has to agree on anything, but it’s been very enlightening to hear your perspective on why you think cultural context matters so much. And something that might work in the US or in Global North countries might not work in our country or in the Global South countries as a whole as well. So, thank you so much for sharing your insights on that. I think it has been really good to listen in to you today and I think our listeners would agree to that as well. But before we close, I was wondering if you have any last points that you want to share with us.

Neeraj

No, the only thing I would say is I mean we need police reforms in India. It’s a deeply tainted sector which needs support not just from, like the government because they fund it, but it also needs there has to be better ways for the police to engage with the community. I mean civil society needs to play a role in this matter and make sure that civil society is not demonized for helping out the police force in any way. So yeah, I think, there are some really good, I’m not some major authoritative voice to speak on this, but there are some phenomenal organizations and individuals working on the ground who need to be consulted, who can be better, I think better voices for the police force to work with. So I believe that every state has it, every district almost has it or at least the major ones. So I think the police forces can use these resources in improving because this would help the communities better, this would help the police better, this would help the communities to look at the police in a better way. So yeah, that’s the only closing thought I have.

Uttanshi

Thank you so much, Neeraj. It’s been really great listening to you, hearing from you, learning from you. And I really do think that our listeners will have a lot to take back with them and to you know continue thinking about this particular conversation that we have had. So, thank you so much for taking the time out to come and speak to us today.

Neeraj

Thank you for the opportunity. I’m glad that One Future Collective has started these conversations and it’s important that we take these ahead. So thank you for the opportunity and thank you for having me.

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Uttanshi

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Sanchi

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