Explorations on Feminist Leadership | S1: Episode 5

Episode 5: Changing Narratives

Mrinalini, Pooja and illesha meet in a cafe, to trace their stories –the ones they have been told, the ones they have lived, and the ones they would like to tell about leadership and heroism. As young women, they feel deeply alienated and enraged by the popular trope of the hero “saviour” who operates in individual prosperity and leaves the love and labour of the collective non-male invisible. The traditional notion of leadership doesn’t recognise all the stakeholders involved. The current dominant structure of top-down leadership and patriarchal heroism never did benefit the entire community.

About the hosts

Mrinalini is making the most of a conflicted passion for social development and entrepreneurship, and wishes to bring the change she seeks through building structures and communities, whilst tapping onto her entrepreneurial spirit to help her drive the change the society needs. She is extremely passionate about creating safe spaces for growth, collaboration, and wellbeing and truly believes in the power of togetherness and love. On days away from all of it, you will find her surrounding herself with dogs, nature, kids, and a whole lot of coffee.

Pooja Dedhia is a Brand and Design Executive at Common Purpose. With a background in branding within the social sector, Pooja brings a unique perspective to creating transformative brands. Beyond her professional pursuits, Pooja is dedicated to impactful projects in various areas, with a focus on career development, inclusive leadership, and collaboration with the feminist and queer community.

illesha is an interdisciplinary artist studying the geographies of the heart. She makes photographs, poems, films, books, and gatherings. Her practice is primarily concerned with the meeting of internal/external landscapes, forms that push us to reconsider the depth of our relationships to places and to each other. She is the co-creator of ikattha – an independent artist-run collaborative studio space that was based in Mumbai. illesha looks ahead with hope, to a more loving world for all beings.

Transcript

Pooja

Hello everyone!

 

Mrinalini

Hi! 

 

illesha

Hello and welcome to “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #OneFuture Fellows2022”, a podcast by the 2022 cohort of The One,

 

Pooja

Future Collective Fellowship.

 

illesha

Where we discuss, examine, and learn about all things feminist leadership.

 

Mrinalini

My name is Mrinalini and

 

Pooja

I’m Pooja Dedhia and.

 

illesha

I am illesha and today we will be talking about. Changing narratives of leadership and heroism.

 

Mrinalini

In a physical setup in Mumbai,

 

Pooja

we just had a very flowy conversation in such a beautiful environment and very cute cafe and we just had let each other’s conversation flow and guide us

 

Mrinalini

through our discussions. We understood how leadership and heroism are not just restricted to the outside world, all our workspaces, but something that are deeply and inherently connected into our being as well.

 

Pooja

We hope that you enjoy this episode. Thanks for listening in and let’s begin now. (followed by laughter) It’s very nice na, the ambiance?

 

Mrinalini

Are we like talking?  Don’t worry about being perfect, that’s the first thing, come as you are.  So I’ll tell you, like the image that comes into my head the moment I say these fancy words. It would be like of some man who’s like tall and like very like muscular and like you know, like full on. I don’t know, man. Like some, some just really strong buffy guy, you know who can just take on the world literally. And he believes that that he can because the world has, like told him, like, “Oh my God, you can do everything” like the world is like that. The problem with heroism is, the first problem is that it automatically places the burden of saving on one person and also victimizes the other one.

 

Pooja

Okay

 

Mrinalini

I feel that there is this big issue of codependency which arises thanks to heroism. Trying to get over here is that if you’re gonna put these social roles onto women, they’re automatically not gonna have the space to become financially or emotionally independent, even if they wish to do so. Or at least like there is the set of resources are unequally distributed over here.

 

Pooja

Yeah, so it like, it makes the quote “hero” indispensable.

 

Mrinalini

Yes,

 

Pooja

It means that he or usually he is required in order for the other person to survive.

 

Mrinalini

Exactly. In fact, I feel a lot is also about how it’s presented to us on the table. You know, like stories are literally what is being told to you.

 

Pooja

Yeah.

 

Mrinalini

How I narrate a story is what the story will be for you rather than what the story really is.

 

Pooja

Yeah yeah.

 

Mrinalini

So something of similar sort I feel happens with the shades of leadership and heroism as well, like your system that’s not really facilitating independence. Like, it’s not really, giving someone the resources to be able to stand on their own. Because that’s dangerous. Like, yeah. Why is it dangerous? Because then the hero might have less.

 

illesha

Again, equity comes over there.

 

Pooja

Yeah. Yeah.

 

illesha

So I feel like patriarchy in itself is propagated by this, by inculcating this sense of dependency on the hero. Do you want to share some thoughts, anything?

 

Pooja

Actually I rather had today, it was my CEO’s birthday right? Like she’s like I think 51 or 52 and she’s running the organization right now. Very nice to have like a handwritten note card from every person in the team, a small team. And sort of majority of the note cards said like you’re a really good leader and I aspire to be you including myself. Like I wouldn’t say she’s perfect but it felt like true because everyone had their own words to express it not like a message that you copy paste. So yeah, even she felt very heartfelt after she read all of that so. Yeah. So that is something I was just thinking on when we were, we wanted to talk about leadership and like this happened just today. So yeah, that was sort of going on in my mind.

 

illesha

Is she the first boss or like female like leader that you’ve experienced some like such a close level?

 

Pooja

Yeah, yeah, definitely. And she like it’s been 4 months to be there. But like she has taken care of me in a way, like when she involves me in the conversation, they’re like. In your in the position also in the age people are there. Yeah, she’s willing to open the door for you. And yeah.

 

illesha

And not just to open it, but to help you walk through. I think that’s really beautiful because I’ve had mostly female bosses in a lot of my work situation, say, in the last 10 years. And I think they have all embodied extremely male forms of leadership. And I’ve mostly experienced being, yeah, that being shamed in public and like extreme anxiety on their part. To match up and live up to their counterparts who are all males. But I’ve found that most women who are in leadership positions that I’ve experienced are under such severe stress and have worked so hard to get there. But once they’re there, they don’t really have the bandwidth to examine how they’re doing it. They’re so caught up in remaining in that position and proving that they are worth staying there, right? And there’s like so much to fight against in order for them to remain in those positions. Where does the energy remain to reflect? But I wonder how, like I practically genuinely wonder how did your boss get it right?

 

Pooja

You know, I was thinking about it. So I don’t know her entire story. But from what I understand she was an educator. She was a teacher before. So I think that sort of like how you behave with a student might be coming into her leadership style in a way, like the empathy, in a way. And she started her leadership journey around in her forties So I think the age factor also like she might be a little more secured even though there are like other men who might not making her feel very secure, but she herself and the person might be a little more secured. Like that sort of maturity might have been a part of it.

 

Mrinalini

Listening to the two of you, in general, if you think about a leader, for me a leader would be someone who opens the door for you, like Pooja just said. Or you know who brings you inside, who makes you a part of the table, who gives you a seat at the table and also gives you the respect to, the respect plus the strength. You know, go out and make some courageous calls or make some courageous decisions or just put your opinions down on the table. Sometimes you do need that question, you need that faith also that ‘Alright, even if I do screw this up, I have somebody at my back’. Only then I can take these bold calls or so to say, yeah, I feel, I think this this trait of leadership or of an ideal leadership so to say, if we think deeply about it, it stems from having a high EQ or like a high emotional quotient , right? It stems from like she said high sense of security? Yes. Empathy? Yes. Being able to be a good listener? Yes. Being able to find faults within yourself? Yes. Being able to provide a sense of affection also to the other person like that. Yes, I like you and I’ve got your back. The traditional top down notion of leadership. What happens is that again, it is the entire burden of being a leader, being a hero is placed on one gender. The same gender is conditioned to be born and bred in an environment where emotions are a sign of weakness. When emotions are a symbol of weakness, how are these individuals supposed to bring emotions to the table when they’re practicing? So we need to work on our emotional capabilities. Emotions are not a sign of weakness. We need to like probably put it on our shirts and wear it every day. I don’t know. 

 

illesha

I mean it does take awareness and it takes you to keep repeating yourself. To keep drilling it in because so many years of conditioning that we’re kind of up against.

 

Pooja

So I will come into the emotions. I’ll just speak about my boss because this is on my mind today. I can’t like think of any other examples.

 

illesha

Good to, I think, to speak from where you are.

 

Pooja

Yeah. So she has like a little louder voice. Like her normal pitch is also little higher. So when she gets angry, her voice like becomes little more higher, right? And she is aware and she has like told us that if I’m angry and not angry at you, I’m angry at like the situation that has happened, right? Never. It’s never personal. If I say something, it’s never personal. She has like, you know, made that warning clear again and again and she’s the someone who loses her temper, like pretty quickly. And she’s aware about it, which is a good thing. Not losing the temper part, but being aware about it is a good thing.

 

illesha

Yeah, it is showing up as human, as flawed.

 

Pooja

And like imagine like if I’m a new employee and putting this out in front of me also takes a courage, right? Because if someone who comes into your environment you want to, like, impress them or as a leader, you might want to boss them or whatever. But like, putting this part out is also very human or like empathetic thing to do right. When you I think said like you know opening the door for others is very important So she tells other colleagues also “I want you to do this by yourself so that you learn so that you are capable of it, you can take it forward. You don’t have to come to me always.” She has this very small small nuances that happens every day. So you miss it. But when I was reflecting on it today since everyone wrote, everyone appreciated her as a leader. So I was reflecting and those are like everyday things that happen. So which is like a very different practice than what we see otherwise, right

 

illesha

And that’s and I feel like that’s something  to do with not withholding information. Like I think if she’s willing, and not just willing, but interested in her coworkers picking up skills and picking them forward independently. Then she has to be transparent about how it’s actually done and what are all the moving parts that go into making this thing happen. And I feel like what often happens with hierarchical or top down leadership and a lot of say masculine you know, male forms of leadership that I’ve experienced is a withholding of information.

 

Pooja

I think that comes from insecurity of their position. Because if I know how to do it, then, you know, I might take her power 

 

illesha

This is something I have thought about a lot in the context of family. So I had wondered again and again, you know, like if when I was a child, my father felt open enough with me to tell me the bank balance this is how much money we have. I knew my chocolate cost ₹5, but I don’t know what is that ₹5 coming out of, right? So I have no perception of what is the whole and then how am I expected to make decisions that then help the family? Even as a child. And I feel like growing up now as an adult, the genuine daily problems I face with financial management… Like, sure, it might be my terrible math skills, it might be my inability to remember numbers, but it might also be the fact that so much information was withheld in the times when I could have picked up these skills. Because my father needed to maintain a certain sense of even if it didn’t exist, he felt a lot of pressure. Even if there was no money in the bank account, to pretend that everything is fine. So you don’t feel stressed out, right. You know, I can understand that might even be empathy. You know, there might even be empathy on the part of the father that I don’t want my child to be really, really worried about this right now. So I will just pretend everything is fine and I won’t tell them that we have no money. Yeah. And I think that definitely also comes with a certain amount of privilege, to be able to withhold that information. But yeah, I think that’s like a good example of maybe how information-withholding prevents like independence in a workspace as well or in the world. Like if we don’t know, or if we don’t personally put in the time say to study all the laws, then how the fuck are we gonna walk around and know how to use anything?

 

Pooja

Like, I don’t want to elaborate more on this but political leaders, what they’re doing, they’re like basically withholding lot of information, right. And that’s how they’re controlling everything around us in some way or the other.

 

Mrinalini

Coming to what illesha spoke about when it comes to a family structure and also so brave of you to like to speak about like this.  Thank you for bringing it up because I feel withholding information, sense of security, extremely valid point. But one more over here I feel is this mirage. This is the facade that you’re talking about, this mirage of perfection which the society as a whole chases constantly. We are the perfect family. My workplace is the perfect workplace. Please tell me one perfect family that exists because I don’t believe there’s any.  But if I go home and ask my dad, he’s like, “Oh, we are like the perfect family. Why would you say we are not?” you know? And then he’ll get like, stressed the shit out if I say “Uh, we are not. ” You know, if you think about it, if you make women or if you make individuals, capable individuals, the relationships they form in their lives will come from a space of want, desire, and not from a sense of need. As an agency, as a society being an agency, I feel it marriage is a very big part of the Indian spectrum or I would even say the South Asian spectrum as a whole, right. If you think about how marriage is actually broadcasted or advertised, I’m sorry these are very technical terms, but it is kind of advertised, right? It’s drilled into our heads, right from the time you’re born, that oh marriage is like the best thing ever to happen to you and what not. I feel what happens is that over the years, because they’re so desperate to keep this one institution going. Or they believe that a set of institutions can only and only take the community ahead in the right spirit, that to continue these institutions they create such dependent creatures altogether, that that by the time you’re an adult like, okay, fine, you know that you suck at math, you suck at numbers, you suck at all of these things, but you’re still trying. That takes a lot of courage. And I’m not, like, saying this with any disrespect, but a lot of girls might stop and be like, “You know what? I’m not good at all of it. Why don’t I just get married to the guy, like my parents are, like, telling me about and like he’ll take care of all of this bullshit and I can, like, have my breathing space.” I’m not judging them for this. But what I’m saying is that there is a sense of incapability that is being propagated in the society as a whole. In order to ensure the success of a couple of institutions, which the society wants. And why and why are we chasing these things? Because we are so scared that independence will demolish the sense of community when in reality communities flourish the most when they are coming from a sense of independence.

 

illesha

I love that.

 

Mrinalini

I should not need to be with you all, but I should want to be with you all. And the problem is that when individuals are conditioned and brought up and they’ve been like structured in a way that okay, I do need these institutions for my survival, for my existence, the choices are never your choices. The choices are always the choices of the society.

 

Pooja

Yeah, especially in these cases where like someone is getting married or because of  “I can’t do it. I need…that is how I am supposed to live.” And like you’re getting married for the need and not the want. So like later on, like after a certain point, you don’t want to be with that person anymore because of whatever reason, but because you need to be. There’s no other way.

 

Mrinalini

Exactly. Or you’re being trapped.

 

Pooja

Yeah you’re completely trapped.

 

Mrinalini

It’s like a bloody rat trap, man. Like you’re shown the cheese and you get into it. You’re stuck in, chalo keep eating the cheese all your life and now you’re gonna die in that rut only. So, I mean, that’s very dark.

 

illesha

I think there are so many women who go on these journeys every day, you know. Maybe we fight these ideas and we try to change the narrative of like our roles and our families. And like there I just met Limbo Pandit, my very close childhood friend, before coming here. And she was sharing with me how maybe in her family, her father has always earned more than her mother, right? So she never knew that she would be in a relationship where she was a financial supporter and now she is. She’s engaged. And she kind of, earns more than her partner does. And she thought he would be uncomfortable with it. And she was shocked that he wasn’t. That it, never even comes up for her, that it’s so comfortable just to support each other without it needing to be more him, or even needing to be entirely equal. And I think that’s the point where I see some cracks in the world forming and like some narratives actually beginning to change. But I wonder what level they happen on. Like, I wonder if it can only happen…I don’t believe it can only happen in a space of privilege, but I believe it’s more possible, like when we have the ability to have these conversations, that like narratives…. Do you feel like narratives change faster in spaces of privilege?

 

Pooja

Yeah, I think so. Like not every time, but definitely this privilege sort of aids it. Like lack of privilege might bring certain more obstacles than there is already in the world.

 

Mrinalini

You know, I don’t think so.  I don’t. I have met the most broad minded individuals who come from a space of zero privilege and I’ve seen like, it’s probably my opinion is a little biased based on my experience…

 

illesha

No, but that’s how it should be. That’s what I want to know.

 

Mrinalini

Like imagine that the society and its notions are like this big giant thing, probably like that one over there. Okay, like a big, big tree okay. And the branches are like super wide and it’s like huge. Like the tree is a big, big massive tree. The canopy is like really vast and it’s like covering everything possible and it’s like a super big ass tree. Imagine there comes like a small budding plant like a small bud has just planted on like on the floor, on the soil, okay.  Vichara, as long as this tree is like so vast and it is covering the entire universe, even if the plant tries to like grow bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger, it will never.  It will be so difficult for the plant to surpass the tree to break through the tree. If he, if he tries to do that, if the plant tries to do that, he will be broken. That’s what patriarchy does to our men. So they don’t try to be that plant. They try to add themselves to the Goddamn tree. And then when we talk about, let’s say, women or when we talk about the LGBTQI community. We are shunned over with a couple of leaves. We are not even given enough resources to probably even reach the root of the tree.

 

illesha

Yeah, because what would happen, in this metaphor which I love, is that the sunlight wouldn’t reach the forest floor. But you know what trees do. So trees… fall. And when a tree falls in a forest, all the seeds it drops will grow. And that’s often now trees continue to reproduce. Their children are born when they give up. And I think that’s beautiful. So, yeah, there’s something that has to die, sometimes, so the sun can, like, seep in.

 

Mrinalini

This helped me to think.

 

Pooja

I also know how our conversations are more family oriented today. Last conversation we had were like very, very more focused, right? Talking about like leader in workspace and we didn’t explore any other space. Yeah, I think today we are like sort of like it’s more diverse…

 

illesha

But do you see how, like the resource management being that no one is eating the fourth falafel. Everyone ate exactly equal, and we all are waiting to see who needs the last piece.

 

Pooja

They can have it. (followed by laughter)

 

illesha

That was something, huh? So thank you for listening to us again. We are Mrinalini, Pooja, and illesha talking about the changing narratives of leadership and heroism. We hope that you will take the time to examine the ways in which you have learned to lead. The ways in which your community is led and the ways in which narratives are shifting around you and we hope you will continue to plant seeds and to grow and to push down the trees that need to fall. To our listeners, thank you for joining us and listening today. We really appreciate your support. If you liked this episode, please follow One Future Collective @OneFutureCollective on Instagram and Facebook, and keep an eye out for future episodes of “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #OneFutureFellows2022”. We look forward to watching you grow. Until next time. Take care of yourself. And we know we’re going to be exploring so much more together. Love from Mrinalini, Pooja and illesha. Good night, good morning, good afternoon, however and wherever you find yourself. Thank you.

 

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Explorations on Feminist Leadership 2022-23 | S1: Episode 3

Episode 3: Accountability and Correcting Harm

The occupations taken by the police-military-market-state nexus do not serve the needs of the most vulnerable, and in fact cause harm in most cases. Jasmine, Sarika and Jyotika come together to talk about accountability and correcting harm in the context of their commitment to anti-capitalist and anti-carceral politics. They explore existing abolitionist and transformative ideologies and also discuss the various structures of oppression that shape the politics around harm, danger and violence based on race, caste, class, religion, militarisation, citizenship and borders.

About the hosts

Jasmine Kaur is a punjabi, queer writer/artist. She likes to surround herself with stories and poetics in any medium, including audio, video, still images and performance. Some of her work has been published by VIBE, …ongoing…, streetcake magazine, and Tilt (by QueerAbad). She’s currently working as a Teaching Fellow at the Philosophy Department in Ashoka University.

Sarika Karnad is a Mental Health Professional and Content Head in an organisation that works towards inclusivity & reliable therapy for all. She believes she learns the most about life by talking to people around her – having meaningful conversations and understanding different experiences. Apart from talking and making an extensive list of things to research, Sarika loves spending her day reading books, baking, learning new skills and petting cats.

Jyotika Tomar is an undergraduate student of History at Lady Shri Ram College, University of Delhi.

Content warning: Various forms of Violence, Sexual Assault, Rape, Death, Oppression, India-Pakistan Partitition, Communal Violence, Victim Blaming, Racism and Racial Oppression, Oppressive Laws, Casteism, Gang Rape Case of Priyanka Reddy, State Sanctioned Violence, Police Murder of George Floyd, Racial Oppression, Custodial Torture

Transcript

Sarika

Hello and welcome to “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #OneFuture Fellows2022”, a podcast by the 2022 cohort of the One Future Fellows where we discuss, examine, and learn about all things feminist leadership. I am Sarika, and my pronouns are she/her. I am a Psychologist and a strong advocate for mental health.

 

Jyotika

Hi, my name is Jyotika Tomar. My pronouns are she/her. I am a second year undergraduate student of History at Lady Shri Ram College for Women, University of Delhi.

 

Jasmine

Hi, my name is Jasmine Kaur. My pronouns are she/her and I’m currently working as a teaching fellow at Ashoka University at the Philosophy Department.

 

Sarika

And today we will be talking about accountability and correcting harm.

 

Jyotika

So before we begin with the podcast, we would like to tell you about our rationale behind the choice of this theme. We don’t think it can be divorced from our political leanings, which includes among other things, a commitment to anti-capitalist and anti-carceral politics as well as a firm opposition to the various structures of oppression that shapes the politics, that shapes narratives around harm and danger and violence based on race, caste, class, religion, militarization, citizenship and borders.

 

Jyotika

And we think it’s important to talk about it because the occupations taken by the police, military, market, state, nexus, don’t serve the needs of the most vulnerable, but in fact are enactors and causations of harm themselves in most cases. And we think that we need explanations on these issues from the perspective of feminist leadership to discover how we can build a freer world in opposition to the one that exists now and in furtherance and translation of existing abolitionist thought and transformative principles and traditions of transformative justice, which is things that we want to get into during the course of this podcast.

 

Jyotika

At this point, I think it’s important to give you some trigger warnings so we’ll be discussing issues and themes of violence, particularly sexual violence and oppression. So we request you to be mindful of that while you’re listening. I think over to you, Jasmine, for us to get started.

 

Jasmine

Hi, I wanted us to start off with something Ashon Crawley, a teacher, writer and artist, posted about, inevitability of harm on his social media in June 2021. He writes “Harm happens, we harm one another. Many think this saying harm happens and we harm one another to be a value statement and a moral judgement. So instead of thinking about this fact, we pretend we can be innocent, and so too we value innocence as a moral and ethical good. But my garden keeps teaching me my intent to grow more green beans was neither good nor bad, but it appears I have planted too many in too small a space. So though many are blooming, lots of leaves are dying off, and some of the plants too. I have to remove the felled leaves daily. It doesn’t matter that my intent was to grow more food. It actually might even be a noble desire. It certainly was not bad or mean or evil, but the impact is that the growth has still been harmful for some of the plants. What would a claim of innocence ‘I didn’t mean to do it. This isn’t my fault. Maybe I can just keep watering and whooping and wishing’ even mean for the plants. The garden shows me yet again that some concepts, some ideas are deeply insufficient for trying to contend with our world. All that matters is my attempt to repair the harm done. So instead of guilt and shame, which are the underside of and produced by desires for innocence, care, tenderness, handling things, literally putting my hands in the door, pruning, getting messy with my hands. And from this can emerge repair, from this can emerge joy, and from this can be sensed life and love.”

 

Jasmine

I wanted to share this because this is something that really challenged my perspective on associating guilt and shame with harm, and it really forced me to understand how inevitable harm is and how useless it is to think about notions of innocence instead of notions of repairing the harm that you have done. And I wanted to ask what you both think about this.

 

Jyotika

So I think this excerpt was a very, very beautiful and advocative way to put a lot of our thoughts around this. And I think I see it as a way in which we approach relationships with each other. And these can be various kinds. These could be, these could look like friendships, these could look like romantic relationships, these could look like parent-child relationships. And even though a lot of them may be based on principles of love and respect, justice and equality, I think there’s a need to also look at, like the excerpt put it, the inevitability of harm of us enacting harm on the other person and us also experiencing harm. And sitting with the fact that it’s a very uncomfortable place to be. But that discomfort is necessary.

 

Jyotika

And I think it’s also important to look at not just the intention of the actions that we do, the things we say in the context of these relationships, but also look at the consequences of whatever it is that we did, like divorcing it from what we intended to do. And that is where I think we can practice not associating guilt and hurt with it, but looking at the consequences it had for the other person. Especially when things are as contested as the identity or, you know, invasions of privacy or just things that we didn’t mean to be hurtful but did end up being hurtful and grappling with how we deal with that. Sarika, what do you think of this?

 

Sarika

I think I really like the part where you talked about personal relationships, right? Because I think when we move away from guilt and shame that comes with harm, it also means that we realize that we do hold power in different relationships. For example, in the child-parent sort of relation that there is, punishment is something that’s very, very common and it directly sort of associates like there’s zero tolerance to any sort of violence that happens, right. So it immediately sort of creates a binary. So either wrong, you’re either a perpetrator or you are a victim. And that’s, I mean, is that helpful? There’s strict imposition of punishments, but it also comes with really less exploration, really less reflection. There are no alternatives to it.

 

Sarika

And that also means that there’s very little accountability that we give to the we hold to the perpetrator themselves, right? So how do we correct harm with alternative behaviors to ignorance? Or like, how do we find an alternative that’s not so much about ignorance, where they just say I’m sorry and how do we move more towards the actions part of it.

 

Sarika

And I think also adding on to this is that especially as leaders in different sectors, how do we really hold ourselves accountable where even if we do any sort of harm to anybody, even if we have good intentions, how do we prepare for that? When is harm more of an initial response that we work towards and move away from in a way, than something that we sort of just say sorry and move on from, right?

 

Jasmine

I think we do this by de-linking harm from innocence and guilt, by recognizing that even in our aim to do good, we will end up causing harm and to understand that not as something to feel guilty and ashamed about, but as something to repair. But I am also wondering about how we think of harm at the social level, whatever constructs that exist around it. How do social systems respond to harm? And how we have been socialized in such systems such that we also are and have been enactors and acceptors of this harm, of these systems around harm.

 

Jasmine

I want to work here with the example of sexual assault. When a woman is raped in India, it is often construed as harm against a family rather than harm against a person. And many of us have been socialized in this ideology. And not to think that a woman who has been raped has faced a fate worse than death. We often accept this narrative even if we do not believe the victim herself. How then do we contribute to the conceptions of harm when we do this? What are some of the other ways in which we do contribute to this conception of harm? How might we be able to mitigate this harm by changing our notions around sexual assault from the ones we have been socialized and to a notion where we sent to the person harmed and how they would like to deal with instead of imposing how we would like them to deal with it? In other words, how have they been chained to hold people accountable in these systems and how do we move out of that training?

 

Jyotika

Yeah, the very, very important example that you brought up right now, it makes me think of this book on partition narratives, like oral histories of partition survivors written by Urvashi Butalia. So it’s called ‘The Other Side of Silence’. And one of the ideas that she discusses while talking about particularly sexual violence enacted on women during the partition riots was how women’s bodies were used as battlegrounds for contesting groups of like contesting communities and how they were the sites of violence that, you know, these communities used to enact violence against each other, if that makes sense. Which makes us, which puts us in a position where we have to contest with the construction of narratives of harm, of danger and of safety.

 

Jyotika

And so the one recurring narrative is that of stranger danger. And that is essentially being told, like young women and girls particularly being taught from a very young age that they need to be necessary, like particularly careful of their safety when they leave the home and they go outside because of, you know, this, like this construction of the dangerous stranger which I will get into, which will, which is usually and structurally deployed against particularly men from marginalized communities.

 

Jyotika

And what also comes at this point is the construction of a binary of the home being a space of safety and comfort and the outside or the public being a space of potential harm and violence. Which is an obfuscation of facts, because statistically, every single year the National Crime Records Bureau data tells us that in over 92-93% cases, in cases of sexual violence against women, it is individuals known to the survivor who are the enactors of harm, who are the perpetrators.

 

Jyotika

So how do we grapple with this idea of stranger danger, right? And also look at how the entire energy and resources and time of the state and the military have been deployed to sort of give shape and structure to these narratives. And I think that some clarity about that will come when we talk about the disproportionate incarceration of persons from marginalized communities and I’ll take two examples to discuss that.

 

Jyotika

So in the United States it is the African American population along with of course Hispanic people and other communities which are disproportionately incarcerated and face the brunt of police and custodial violence and systematic targeting. So the African American population though it’s only 13% total population of the country, they make up 40% of the incarcerated population. And when we talk about the Indian context and look at under-trials, it is individuals from Scheduled Caste and Tribe communities and from Muslim and Sikh communities who make up 70% of the under-trial population, right, which is disproportionate to the actual population demographic that they have.

 

Jyotika

So and a very, very important way of implicating them is through directives of particularly sexual violence and of course these have legal and political basis. So if you look at say for instance legislation like the Criminal Tribes Act of 1871, a colonial era legislation, it sort of designated certain communities as habitual offenders and even though in the context of post independent India, that was like the law isn’t enforced anymore, but it’s not enough to say that it’s simply because it’s not enforced anymore, it doesn’t have any consequence because it’s solidified through narratives and the way state and its institutions function.

 

Jyotika

So the way particularly in individuals from the notified tribes are, you know, targeted by the state now is because of the consequence of what this legislation did, the designation of habitual offenders. And there are organizations that we link in the resources that are working on these issues, which also makes us think about how the level to which violence has been normalized and simply because it is enacted by the state and its institutions, it’s not something that counts for a space of critique or, you know, questioning and it’s just taken as, say, the natural.

 

Jyotika

So if you look at the sexual violence enacted by the military in places where the Armed Forces Special Powers Act is in is deployed, that won’t, you know, that that won’t be questioned to the extent to which other cases of sexual violence will be. And to give you another example of how even though a category of the victim is created, so there is a binary creation of the good victim and the bad victim. And the good victim is something that attracts a lot of public outcry, there is mobilization and so on. And the other kind of victim is a space where that’s not the response that we receive.

 

Jyotika

And say for instance though Priyanka Reddy gang rape case that happened in Hyderabad in 2019, it was followed by what is referred to as an encounter, right. It’s an extra-judicial killing of the accused. And I remember being in a legal studies class and my teacher who was teaching me legal studies and ideas of political science, tell us very jubilantly that, you know, an encounter happened and they were killed. And I did not have the vocabulary to really pinpoint why I felt uncomfortable about that. But it points to the same thing that I’ve been talking about, about the normalization of violence and how extremely punitive carceral systems of punishment, is the only thing people rally around right in when a case of sexual violence happens. And not only does that structurally not solve anything, but it also takes away the agency of the individuals who have gone through the harm, right? Yeah I think I’ve been going on quite a bit. So if there’s anything that you want to say at this point or come in, please feel free to do that.

 

Sarika

Thank you so much for that, Jyotika. I think that gives us a lot of context, right, of how this is sort of enacted on a larger ground, like the large perspective of it. And what I also understood is, it is that the power remains with the majority and is and the definition of justice also comes through this majority and is sort of used against the minority a lot more. And I think the main thing that we’re also coming to is that the carceral systems really don’t negate harm caused.

 

Sarika

And it’s not like the amount of harm caused in society is decreasing. Violence remains, theft remains, everything remains. So it’s not particularly negating the harm. Then we also come to the next question, which is then, how do we transform the society? And right now, what factors in society take us away from accountability and what factors actually lead to justice at the grassroots?

 

Sarika

I think Jasmine also mentioned sort of giving the victim the power to decide how they’d like justice or how they’d like the harm to be corrected. That would also be something that’s very important here, right? How do we move away then from that punishment and sort of isolating the bad actions of one person to that one person only? Because what we’re also understanding is that the end of the day is something that’s been taught to us from the very beginning, like we talked about personal relationships. Punishment has been a part of our personal relationships in school, in college, probably also, in a parent-child relationship. I think that’s what I’ve also understood from everything that Jyotika talked about. Jasmine, do you want to add to this?

 

Jasmine

Yes. Thank you again Jyotika for giving us so much context. I also want to add to this through. So something that has really influenced my thought on this is this video that is called “What Should Happen To Abusers If You Do Not Lock Them Up?” And it is by Kimberly Foster on her channel ‘For Harriet’ and features Professor Leigh Goodmark. And it is all about decriminalizing domestic violence and goes into the history of domestic violence and criminalizing it in the US.

 

Jasmine

But I think a lot of thought also applies elsewhere and in our context also, because they are discussing this question of if we cannot lock the abusers up, what should we do? Because I think we can all agree that domestic abuse is this incredibly important issue against mostly women, but also against people of other genders. And it is heinous to have to be abused for any length of time. And also especially in cases of domestic abuse, the abuse lasts for a long time, even a lifetime. And we also know that not a lot of people even come forward with abuse cases.

 

Jasmine

So it is a very unaddressed problem. But what really affected me in this conversation was the concept that a lot of times when we criminalize domestic abuse, we are not addressing what is causing the abuse in the first place. We are just saying, ‘Oh, you did this bad thing, now you’re going to going to go to jail forever and the person that you were in this relationship with is maybe partly responsible for that’ and also from the victim we’re asking that ‘This person that you love and have other positive feelings about also is the one you have to put behind bars’. And that is a lot to ask from someone.

 

Jasmine

And it also talks about how there is correlation between things like unemployment and poverty to domestic abuse. That it is that there is no point if we just put people who are already hurting and people who might have been abused themselves as younger people, to put them behind bars and to hold them further instead of addressing a lot of material realities that are kind of pushing them towards hurting other people around them. And I think trying to focus on this is something that really made a difference in how I think about this.

 

Jasmine

And also centering victims, because a lot of victims do not exactly want the abuser to go to jail, they want them to stop abusing. That is the main thing. And if not, then maybe to get out of that relationship. But that is also limited and what the understanding of Professor Leigh Goodmark’s has been is that a lot of victims when they have this option that their abusers can be rehabilitated, will choose the rehabilitation over getting this carceral revenge or justice that we have been taught is the only thing we can be getting.

 

Jasmine

So that is something that has that’s what I think about this and trying to move to restorative justice instead of this very carceral and very punitive justice.

 

Jyotika

Right. So over here I just want to talk about one thing about to mention on the which is about the reasons abolitionists brought and what and those reasons are foremost and what is an abolitionist and what they think of the issues that we’re talking about. So these are people who call for the complete dismantling of structures such as the prison, the police, the military and so on.

 

Jyotika

And they locate that political position that they take in a politics based on anti-capitalist and anti-carceral ideas. And they see these structures as violent entities, inherently violent entities, constructed by oppression based on race, caste, class, religion, gender, sexuality, citizenship, militarization, and so on. And I got interested in these ideas during the 2020 protests against police brutality in the aftermath of the institutional murder by the police of George Floyd.

 

00:25:43 Jyotika

So the prominent abolitionist thinkers are people like Angela Davis and Ruth Wilson Gilmore. And what they say is that these institutions don’t serve the needs of the most vulnerable, but what they do is they deploy their coercive posts against them. And this takes several forms that we’ve discussed. So it looks like systematic targeting, surveillance, custodial torture and violence, creation of the narratives of criminality, of sexual violence or dismissal, of tool of law in the way in which the process takes shape.

 

Jyotika

And because of these reasons and their analysis of it and the looking of course this is a situation in the American context. So they do a lot of work on how the African American community is targeted by these issues and they say that these institutions will not help us solve crime and must be done away with.

 

Jyotika

And the alternative they offer is things that look like material and structural changes and that comes from a socialist perspective. So they talk about building communities of care and support, They talk about the state funding, of education, of healthcare, better working conditions. And they say that crime is caused in the absence of all of these things. And that is where we should divert our attention, resources and time instead of, you know, furthering the punitive and carceral response.

 

Jyotika

And they also talk a lot about restorative and transformative justice, which over to you, Sarika, for introducing us to that.

 

Sarika

Thank you for that, Jyotika. So I think in terms of restorative justice, right, as a psychologist, I am very used to sort of looking up different researchers and different studies that have been done. And this is something I was honestly really interested in because I really wanted to know how do we implement it right? Because I’m going to say it’s easier said than done when it comes to this because it’s something that has to change at the very grassroots of society.

 

Sarika

So I’ve actually looked up this study that was done in Florida in 2020, where they implemented restorative justice in a middle school and I think that gave me a really good idea of how it could be something that is put forward and acted on and from there on, right. So it was basically sixth to eighth grade students who were, they sort of changed their model of justice. There were no punishment. If there was any sort of problem that came up, any sort of conflict that came up, they were asked to write letters to each other.

 

Sarika

And I think Jyotika, what you talked about in terms of community-building in order to get justice, in order to correct harm was something that they used a lot over here. And I think that was something that really changed my mind on how it is something that can be implemented, right?

 

Sarika

So that’s one. But again, I’m gonna see at the roots of it, restorative justice also comes down to why education is important, why economic stability is important. Having a community around that’s supportive becomes very, very important in this case, because when we see the principles of restorative justice, there’s a lot of what, like a feeling of safety, is something that’s very important. Having stuff that’s accessible is very important. Respect is important and these are things that we also learn when we are children to sort of avoid any bias, to be more neutral and also just having that accessibility of people around who would understand and support you in that space, right, and also hold you accountable more than anything else. I think that is something that is very important.

 

Jasmine

I think we can wrap this up and we can do that by maybe sharing one thing we have learned in this podcast episode. I can begin. I learned that to reduce people to good and evil is very reductive and harmful. That it does very little to repair the harm caused, if it does anything at all. And rather I think it tends to increase the harm in the world. That our focus has to be step out, stepping out of a preoccupation with being innocent and working on repair and to centering people who have been harmed, rather than punishing people who have done the harm who might have been harmed themselves in the past or even in the present. And to just send over repair and care instead of punishing.

 

Jyotika

So thank you so much for this very, very reflective conversation. And even though we had some pointers prepared earlier for what we wanted to discuss, all of the pauses and reflections we took in while we were talking is testament to how much we really learned from activity. And I think my take away from this would be how important it is for us to value complexity and nuance when we approach these conversations, be it at the personal level, when we sit in a position where we confront the reality that we might just be, you know, enactors of harm ourselves and it is important to be held accountable for that and sit with that discomfort and also at the public level where we must create spaces where we approach these conversations with a lot more nuance than we do as of now because the position we are right now because it doesn’t approach these conversations in that way. All it does., like you said, Jasmine, is further the kind of violence that we already have prevailing and it’s important for us to have re-imaginations of our responses. So that would be what I took away from this.

 

Sarika

Thank you so much, Jyotika and Jasmine. I think this was actually a very reflective discussion. And like you said, Jyotika, I’ve also been reflecting a lot more personally on this topic right? And even in the context of feminist leadership. I mean, it’s something that we have to sort of constantly strengthen and work towards in order to be accountable, in order to be kind and empathetic and build that community for people and for each other.

 

Sarika

It’s almost like a muscle that we have to keep sort of strengthening over time, right? To be kind, to be empathetic. And it’s not something that comes easily. There’s a lot of unlearning that sort of goes into it. But yeah, I think that’s what I’m taking with me. There are still a lot of questions that would need more objective sort of answers, but this is a start and I really like this start. So yeah.

 

Jyotika

Yeah, you put that really well. It’s a starting point for questions and we don’t have all the answers, but I think that’s the point.

 

Jasmine

I think so too. I also really like the start, and thank you both for giving such a good reflective conversation, and I think it’s a good place to begin.

 

Jyotika

To our listeners, thank you so much for joining us and listening in. We really, really appreciate your support. If you like this episode, please follow us on Instagram and Facebook @OneFutureCollective and One Future_India on Twitter and keep an eye out for future episodes of “Explorations on Feminist Leadership by #OneFutureFellows2022”. Please leave in your questions, comments or feedback for us on Anchor or in our dms. We really look forward to hearing your thoughts and until next time, take care of yourself and we hope that we can explore more together. Have a good day.

 

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Resources mentioned by the hosts

  1. Ashon Crawley: https://ashoncrawley.com/
  2. The Other Side of Silence by Urvashi Butalia: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/49988813
  3. What Should Happen To Abusers If You Do Not Lock Them Up?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmZqyYFudVg
  4. A Case Study of the Implementation of Restorative Justice in a Middle School: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19404476.2020.1733912

Mapping and negotiating power

Uncuff India Episode 10: Dimensions of conflict and peace: visioning a utopian world

Uncuff India Episode 9: Civic space and dissent: A pathway to social justice

Youth Rights and Leadership

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On the 24th of February, we at One Future Collective hosted an IG Live on ‘Youth Rights and Leadership’. With Deepa as the moderator, a former One Future Fellow and we were joined by Deepa Pawar, the founder of Anubhuti and Sukannyaa, a member of Pravah.

 

Deepa started by asking what the speakers’ definitions of youth rights were. Deepa Pawar takes the examples of Babasaheb Ambedkar and Savitribai Phule who were young themselves when they started working on creating a change. This shows how important youth rights are in a country like India. We must all help in building a stronger bridge to connect the effort of the youth in taking part in the revolution and we must be inclusive in this effort. According to her, youth rights are no separate component of the values of India’s constitution. However, they do require more attention to the process and implementation. 

 

Sukannyaa believes the stage between adolescence and adulthood is a very important and eye-opening phase where one experiences many aspects of life like work, justice, and equality in a different light. Each person experiences unique challenges and difficulties in this journey. We must highlight these challenges and bring them into mainstream conversations.

 

Pravah does this on three levels: First is by changing the way we view the youth and avoiding stereotypes where we look down on them or view them through a tokenistic lens of pawns needed to create a better economy. This in turn avoids creating a barrier and empowers the youth. The second is by creating spaces for the youth to represent their communities when it comes to conversations around rights and equality and doing this through an intersectional perspective. The third is by questioning ourselves on how we can create safe environments for the youth to work and build on their strengths and meet people of different identities. 

 

Deepa then goes on to question how Anubhuti has made sure to address intersectionality in its efforts. Deepa Pawar highlights how there is a common misconception that the youth are not interested in politics in general. Engagement in politics must be created in educational institutions, but when these institutions shun students from understanding, critiquing, and participating in politics it creates a bad environment. These spaces must promote political literacy and not political hatred. Anubhuti works as a mirror to show the youth what they can do. The youth have their own lived experiences to reflect on and we try our best to question the root causes of these experiences. Fortunately, the marginalized communities of our country, be it nomadic tribes, the trans community, or working women are naturally equipped to understand the issues that all Anubhuti has to do as an organization, is to facilitate. Deepa reminisces about this process and says it’s been a two-way street. Anubhuti has learned just as much as it has taught while working with the young.

 

The statement ‘personal is political’ rings true to covering intersectionality. For instance, being a woman, you naturally are drawn to and affected by women’s rights. Anubhuti designs its approach underlining these specific identities as these identities dictate the strengths, challenges, and living situations of these individuals.

 

Deepa then goes on to ask Sukannyaa how Pravah has made efforts to create a safe environment for young people to grow. Sukannya addresses how Pravah tries to create these spaces without setting prior expectations that are often a burden and allows the youth to create and explore on their own. Our internship programs also see people from different parts of India such as Jammu and Kashmir and the south as well interacting among themselves. This not only is educative but also increases empathy for those different from us.

 

Deepa Pawar says that creating these spaces is not easy, especially in movements. Asking questions has become more and more dangerous over time. We are indoctrinated with the ideology that marginalized communities do not and should not be given the capacity to participate in political scenarios. Fighting such social biases is no easy feat. When speaking about these safe spaces, Deepa wishes to highlight the need for a support system to rescue the youth when they are caught in the realms of authority for standing up.

 

The panel concluded the talk by lending their idea of the concept ‘Young Feminist People Power’. Sukkannyaa believes this concept stretches itself to all forms of representation. Deepa Pawar then questions why we still don’t recognize the feminist movements native to India far before the movement was given a name in the west. Savitribai Phule and Fatima are perhaps the best examples of Young Feminist People Power narratives. She wishes for us to resurface these narratives, learn from the past experiences of the women that have helped create a change with integrity and create our own stories as we go on.

 

You can watch the full video here: https://www.instagram.com/p/CaXYZX9pnn2/

Mapping and negotiating power

Uncuff India Episode 10: Dimensions of conflict and peace: visioning a utopian world

Uncuff India Episode 9: Civic space and dissent: A pathway to social justice